Okay, ladies and
gentlemen, too! As an author, I write about sociopaths, but truth be
told, most of us have run into a sociopath or two during our dating
experience, right? We may be related to one of these characters, or the
sociopath in our life could be our boss! How many of us are aware this
flaw is oh-so common? One in twenty-five people are born sociopaths, and
many of these people are in our lives as we speak.
What is a
sociopath? A person with no conscience. Zip, not-ta! These are people
who can lie, cheat, steal, destroy the people around them and sleep like
a baby at night. They do, say, and think without consideration for
others. Their main purpose in life is to get what they want, when and
however they please, and poor you if you get in their way. A
sociopath is someone who doesn't cringe when a dog gets hit by a car,
and doesn't 'get' why you do. They cover up their incapacity to care by
focusing on your discomfort. Sound familiar?
Not every sociopath
displays signs of this anomaly outwardly. Some prefer to be sneaky,
calculating, throw people around them off guard. They pull you in, gain
your confidence, then whittle away at your self esteem. Life is one big
game, with only one winner, and it isn't you! Sure, there are
notorious sociopaths--turn on American Greed! Prime examples of
conscious-free specimens destroying lives around them , but what about
your neighbor? Your girl/boyfriend? How do you recognize sociopath
characteristics in those closest to you? Dr. Martha Stout, author of
"The Sociopath Next Door", refers to conscience as a "seventh" sense,
that has developed over time. Those who lack this seventh sense feel
they are better off in many ways. Sociopaths don't struggle with 'right'
or 'wrong', they know the difference, but they only do what serves
them.
Sociopaths do not feel guilty. Ever. They don't know how,
although they may "display" emotion to hide their lack, or up their
game. They watch how others respond, and imitate what they see to fit
in. Fitting in is part of the game. They will manipulate, tell the 'down
and out' story to draw you in, all the while, deviously collecting data
to use as a weapon when the time is right. Sociopaths come off as
charismatic, dynamic, your best friend, the one guy/girl on the planet
who is a perfect match, one who understands you completely, loves you
unconditionally. Truth? Beneath this veneer of 'too good to be true'
lies a twisted mind that feeds on your soul and won't stop until your
consumed. The only way to save yourself is to walk away, and don't look back.
This blog post is for discussion purposes only. Always seek professional help for a diagnoses.
For More Information on Sociopaths Check out the following websites:https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201305/how-spot-sociopathhttp://www.wikihow.com/Determine-if-Someone-Is-a-Sociopathhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/12/07/dating-a-psychopath_n_4378946.htmlhttp://www.naturalnews.com/036112_sociopaths_cults_influence.html